Something’s Got To Give

Yesterday I pulled up alongside the park ready for some serious fun with my youngest sproglet. Hopping out of the car he made an excited dash for the gate before stopping in his tracks when I beckoned for him to wait because I needed to get my stick. Looking serious for a moment, my little T.rex searched around on the ground before gleefully picking up a stick and calling out, “Here’s a stick, Mummy!” He looked so pleased with himself for having saved me the bother of rummaging around in the car; I’m not entirely convinced that he quite comprehends what it means to have a mummy with ‘bad legs’.

As it happens, being a mummy with bad legs has become a bit of an issue of late. You see, my children’s school has moved to a brand new site, which is much closer to our house. Had I the legs for it, the school run would be a mere 10 minute walk away. But, as things stand, I have to load the kids into the car, while a succession of onlooking families trot past our driveway on their way to the same school. I can’t help but think how incredibly lazy I must look!

All of this means that I’m beginning to feel plagued by a serious case of Mum Guilt. My kids so badly want to walk to school each morning and I so badly want to be the one to walk with them, but I feel as though I am letting them down. My son even said to me, “I wish you didn’t have MS so we could walk to school” – Ouch!

Now I am busy plotting a list of ways in which I could perhaps accompany my kids on their walk to school:

1) I could drive very slowly alongside them as they whizz along the path on their scooters – tailgaters would love this!

2) I could take my wheelchair and the kids could take it in turns to push me, then I could find one of the other parents to push me back.

3) I could invest in a mobility scooter, or an electric wheelchair or – most fun of all – an electric scooter with a seat! Now there’s an idea…

Whatever I decide to do and however I decide to play it, these moments are precious and I simply cannot let MS take them away from me.

17 thoughts on “Something’s Got To Give

  1. Get a mobility scooter! They are just wonderful and give you back your independence – I’m not relying on my husband pushing a wheelchair or driving the car all the time. I have 2 scooters. One is great for a walk or shopping, but it takes us both to get it in the car. The other is lighter and more versatile, I can get it in and out of the car myself and it’s great for holidays. When we can go abroad again, taking a scooter on planes and ships is life changing. Go for it – and your kids will love having a go! x


    1. Thanks Cathy! Funnily enough I was watching a lady get her mobility scooter into her boot the other day – she had some kind of crane device that hoisted it into the car, it looked like such a faff! I agree that a scooter would give me far more independence though! Not sure I can afford one, but I am going to look into it x


      1. I have to agree they’re not cheap, but second hand could be worthwhile. My Luggie folds down like a skateboard so I can easily lever it into the boot without a hoist x


      2. They’re not as expensive as you probably think!
        Covid pushed me into getting one because I wanted to avoid the bus and wish I’d got one years ago. I had a weird psychological block about using one, but it’s been so life changing I couldn’t care less if people think I’m too ‘young’ or whatever to use one. I paid £850 for my secondhand armchair on wheels (it is so comfy!) and it has been worth every penny and more.
        I bet your kids will love it – not just because it’s cool but because it lets their mum do more things with them.


      3. I love that – ‘armchair on wheels’ – sounds delightful!


  2. Annabelle Francis September 20, 2020 — 4:01 pm

    Hi, I know it feels like a big step, (pardon the pun!!), But a mobility scooter is a godsend, they are easy to use and you can then do the school walk with the kids. Good luck choosing one.


    1. Hi Annabelle, thank you for your comment – I’ve always been far more comfortable with the idea of using a wheelchair rather than a scooter – it must be something to do with the bad rep associated with them. But I do think you’re right, it would solve a lot!


  3. I realised with Ms you have to let go it is of the things you cant do, and concentrate on the things you can. And rubbish as it is love, get a scooter, you can still walk the little people to school, they walk, you’ll still be by there side x


  4. A Mobility Scooter, the kids will love you being with them and you can pimp it up! It will be a hoot!
    I use one if we go to an accessible garden and I even used one on a Devon Coastal walk. I was beside my husband in stead of in front in a wheelchair , we even held hands!


    1. Thanks, Julie – I could definitely have some fun personalising my scooter!


  5. Cannot recommend a mobility scooter highly enough. I resisted for a long time (probably too long…!) but yes it was the school run that eventually pushed me into it – and my only regret is not “giving in” to it sooner!
    The same as Cathy who commented above, I have a larger one for zipping round the local area (and doing the school run) and a travel one which breaks down and goes back together in two minutes to go in the back of the car.
    We call them Scooby-Doo and Scrappy-Doo and my husband has blinged them up with vinyl stickers and fake orange gerberas (for the crappy looking but annoyingly useful basket on the front). My niece even made me a 70’s inspired basket liner with proper “flower power” style fabric.
    Originally I would go out on the scooter in dark glasses and a hat and be terrified of someone I knew spotting me but now I have gotten over myself I honestly cannot tell you what a difference they have made. The school run is now an absolute breeze as l’m not fighting for parking in the closest spot and my daughter loves riding on it with me by standing on the footplate. The only struggle is trying to stop her cranking up the speed knob…! Good luck with whatever you choose though 🙂


    1. Thanks, Alice – great advice and a great attitude! I imagine my scooter would be blinged up with dinosaurs – now that would be cool!


  6. Thank you for sharing the real day to day hurdles of being a mum with MS. I remember exactly the same dilemma when my two were small. I opted for a mobility scooter and I loved sharing the energy of being alongside them. They loved it too as they could load me up with all their school ‘stuff’ on the way home and even hitch a ride home if very tired (or lazy)! Whatever you decide they have a lovely mum


    1. Thank you Lindsay! I know my kids would love me to get a MobScoot, they frequently take over my wheelchair as it is, so I imagine an electric contraption would be even more fun for them!


  7. F*** MS get a trendy electric scooter! Never heard a more valid reason to need to buy one. Every cloud has a silver lining just sometimes we need to look a bit longer/harder to find it! Sending love & sparkle beautiful lady!


    1. Love your attitude! There are some seriously cool scoots out there – it’s actually quite exciting!


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